Does it seem to you that the holidays were just here? Didn’t you just put away the decorations, make the returns, and finally pay off the last of the credit cards? Maybe you’re still paying on those credit cards and it’s time to start all over again!
I’m not a scrooge and the holidays can be truly joyous. The problem is when our expectations exceed reality. Then instead of joy, we experience disappointment, sadness, low self-esteem and sometimes depression. Here are some tips to keep the holiday, if not joyous, at least, tolerable.
Keep your expectations realistic. The holidays don’t change reality.
Stay within your budget. Over-spending will not bring you joy. It will bring you anxiety. Over-spending is truly the gift that keeps on giving.
Think about what the holidays mean to you. Regardless of your religious affiliation, the holidays can be a time to think about your values and what is really important to you. Find ways to reflect on the themes of peace, and good will to ALL people.
Find some rituals that embody your faith and your beliefs. The holidays are a wonderful time to reaffirm the value of family. Take the time to be with the people you care about (they don’t have to be related to you!).
If you have children, talk to them about the meaning of the holidays. Don’t let them think it’s all about gifts.
Stand up to the hype. You don’t have to stimulate the entire economy yourself. Likewise, you don’t have to be in love, have the perfect family or have lots of money. The message of peace and tolerance is for everyone.
Eat and drink reasonably. Taste a little of everything and drink in moderation. Don’t drink and drive.
I wish you all a very happy holiday season! Take care of yourselves and the ones you love. As always, a special thanks to our members of the military. We so appreciate the sacrifices you make for us all!
Fondly,
Sally